You know those people who just downright inspire you? Those people who every time they open their mouth you just feel like they are speaking directly to you? That’s how I feel about Danielle LaPorte.
I’ve mentioned Danielle LaPorte’s Desire Map here before (see my posts on The Desire Map, Choosing Abundance, and Vulnerability) and I just can’t get enough of her. I’ve read her book The Fire Starter Sessions multiple times now and I cannot stop raving about how much her Desire Map book/program has changed me life.
There have been some challenges happening in my personal life lately. Things that make me want to get defensive. hurt. angry. retreat to the emotional level of a five-year old.
In tough situations, these are the natural reactions of our ego. protect. shelter. shield us from the emotional blow.
But these reactions often only drive us further from what we actually want.
Have you ever been in a fight with someone and been so angry that you pushed them away, when all you actually wanted was to feel closer? Have you ever felt so sad, a sadness so deep that it chilled to the bone, when all you actually wanted was to feel radiantly happy?
Do you want to be angry or do you want to be at peace? Do you want to be sad or do you want to be content? Do you want to be right or do you want to be free?
The beauty of this life is that we get to choose how we want to feel. We can’t control how other people think, feel, or act, but we always get to choose how we want to feel.
In The Desire Map, Danielle walks you through how to create your own list of Core Desired Feelings. The idea is that instead of living our life based off of empty goals or a to-do list, our Core Desired Feelings and how we want to feel should be the driver behind every goal, decision, and step of this life. When we’re living by our Core Desired Feelings, we become unstoppable. At least, that’s what I’ve found.
Things have been feeling way off-center in my world so this week I made sure to keep my Core Desired Feelings list nearby. I desire to live in abundance and feel aligned, strong, free, and secure. It’s easy to focus on creating these feelings when life feels good and settled. The real challenge is creating these feelings when things feel way out of alignment and messy.
And when life feels messy in these down moments, I have to keep reminding myself that I have the power to create my Core Desired Feelings. And I always have the power to choose how I want to feel.
How do you want to feel? How can you create these feelings in your own life?